What Makes A Girl...

Irresistible?
Is it short shorts and loud giggles that turn classmates' heads in annoyance?
Maybe....if the girl you want to be labeled as is a boisterous, obnoxious, slut.
Is it rudeness, which brings a young man down and crushes his hopes....only to be lifted once again, the next day, by your overdone sappy-sweetness.
That's possible, if you only want to hang onto the guy until he's finished playing your game. And one day, he will be.
Is it popularity? Flirtatiousness? The trials you've faced that grant you attention? Is it your turbulent emotions? Your explicit sexuality? Your vulgar language?
I suppose it all depends on who you want to be recognized by and what you want to be recognized for.
If you like the titles I've just mentioned, then nothing is stopping you from being just that.

But what is it that makes a girl genuinely irresistible?
I came up with a simple list of four things which I believe define "Princess in Waiting"....and undoubtedly attract Prince Charming.

1. She who centers her life around Christ Jesus our Lord.

A girl should NOT run her life. As much as you've heard that said before, it is absolute fallacy. While she may be at the steering wheel when things are going well for her (which they SHOULD be before she even considers the possibility of entering a new dating relationship), she should never be navigating herself from point A to point B.
That is the job of a metaphorical "GPS". (Hint, hint....it's called G -O -D.) I believe God is like a GPS because he doesn't force us to go a certain way. He may say to "turn right in the next quarter mile", but he's going to give us the freedom to choose our path. And just like with a real GPS, if we listen, we'll arrive at the planned destination. If we don't, we may get temporarily lost....and then our GPS will "recalculate".
The main point is, when a lady has Christ Jesus at the center of her life and follows His lead, she is far less likely to fall into heartbreak and bad choices with unworthy boys. God doesn't want His precious daughters to be hurt--so he will protect them with all of His Might. But He can only do this if they seek His Will, first.
And, of course, a Godly man will surely recognize a Godly woman, and know that he would be blessed to have such a fine lady in his life. :)

2. She who is confident and comfortable with who she is.

Who are you and what do you do best? These are two questions that every girl should ask herself. If she makes herself aware of the things that make her uniquely her, she will have a much easier time focusing on just being that.
My challenge to every girl is to write at least five things down that define her--things that she does really well. Special talents. Once she has those five things written down, she should take a quick peek at that list every morning before she walks out the door as a reminder. A reminder of what, you ask? A reminder of what she should strive to be. Herself.
The beauty of this is that when a girl is doing something she knows she's good at, she exudes confidence...and believe me, boys can smell confidence on a girl. Haha! But seriously. Confidence is beautiful. Insecurity is clumsy and unnecessary.
What makes a girl brilliant is what makes her, her. And what makes her, her makes her confident! Should I repeat it once more?!
That's the STUFF that makes you irresistible! I promise you.

3. She who treats her body as His temple.

"Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body," (1 Cor. 6:19-20).
So what on earth does that mean?
It means a girl should dress cute, smell nice, and do fun things with her hair. It means she should experiment with the new looks she saw in Seventeen. It means she should make herself feel gorgeous when she dresses up for the day.
What it DOESN'T mean is this:
Low-cut shirts and too-tight tanks. Booty-baring shorts or barely-there bikinis. Excessive makeup used as a method for attracting others to a false, Barbie-version of herself. Dressing to make boys drool. Making boys' challenge not to succumb to the forceful power of testosterone much harder than it needs to be. Making it nearly impossible for them to resist temptation.
The only man who should ever be drooling over what a woman wears should be married to her.
And that should only be shared between the two of them....AKA, no one else should know what her lingerie look like. Comprendes?
Pretty simple, I think.
Ladies: Imagine that Jesus is standing in the place of the mirror. Would he approve? If not; CHANGE.
Aside from dressing in a classy manner, to treat one's body as the temple of God can mean many things. One of these is positive eating habits. If a lady is forcing her belly to contain more than it is comfortable with hanging onto for one meal, she's doing something wrong. If she doesn't eat when it's time to, that is also a problem.
Also, exercise. A girl's body will thank her for doing good, hard work by toning up and trimming down....and as a result of her being in good shape, her life will probably be made longer and more comfortable.
One last thing that can be inferred from the "temple of God" verse is to exercise the MIND as well. A woman's body makes her sexy but it is her mind that makes her beautiful. I believe in this wholeheartedly. A girl's mind is a muscle with so much incredible potential, and if she would only exercise and challenge it from time to time, Lord only knows how strong it could become.
Intellect is very attractive.

4. She who can do what he cannot--resist.

Now I'm going to drop this whole "he, she, her, girl, lady" act and talk to whomever may be reading, because this one is very important, no matter how you interpret it.
And you SHOULD interpret it two different ways.
The first is this: That chivalry IS NOT DEAD. Allow the guy to pursue you. I'm not saying not to be the first to smile at him or say hello in the hallway or ask him how his day was...NO! Just don't pop his personal bubble. Allow him the grand opportunity to say those things first. You may be surprised how often he would if you would just zip your lips.
The second is more for those who are already in a relationship, and it goes a little something like this:
DO NOT let him treat you as any less than you would expect Prince Charming himself to treat you. DO NOT excuse a man's behavior by believing the lie that all men are horn dogs.
Sure! Men are more sexually-driven than women are, but a good MAN who is right with God knows that no temptation has overtaken you which you are not provided a route of escape from!
Examples: If he moves his hand to a place you aren't comfortable with his hand being, you sure as heck have the right to MOVE IT.
If he is being pushy, you also have every right to tell him to go home (or that you want to go home yourself).
Don't let a guy guilt-trip you into doing something you don't want to do.

And if your guy is a repeat offender of any of the above, dump him. He's either not of Godly character or not ready to handle a God-centered relationship.


Important statement coming up! I believe that nothing can justify premarital sex. Even more importantly, God confirms it in His Word. True love is capable of waiting.

The big toughie, however, is when you have a great guy of Godly character, you respect and adore each other, you both want to wait until marriage, etc. etc....but that still doesn't change the fact that you're physically attracted to each other.
These two rules are fool proof: Don't tempt each other. And make sure you're never alone in a room for long periods of time.
That's it.


I honestly didn't mush a whole bunch of my opinions together to create this post; I promise. I based it on fact and experience. I believe in these four things because I try to live by them, and they seem to work pretty well for me. I don't believe I'm the guru of attracting the opposite sex, nor do I want to be...and I'm certainly not perfect. I mess up just as much, if not more than, the next one. And I apologize if any of my statements seem hypocritical or judgmental--that wasn't my intention. I realize my shortcomings and, if asked, I would take responsibility and own up to them. Why? Because I believe in the power of God's forgiveness.
I'm learning, every day....and if I can share those lessons to save girls like myself from trying something that I have already discovered will not work, by golly! I will.
That's all this is.